Why Is It So Hard to Let Go of Sentimental Items?

Letting go of sentimental items can be one of the hardest parts of decluttering. Even when we know we don’t use or need something, we often feel a strong emotional pull to keep it. But why is that? And how can we make the process a little easier?

The Psychology Behind It

Sentimental items are more than just things — they hold memories. A birthday card from a loved one, a child's drawing, or a sweater from someone who has passed away can feel like a link to a moment or person we don’t want to forget.

Our brains naturally form emotional attachments to objects that are tied to meaningful experiences. These items act like memory triggers — and it can feel like getting rid of them means losing the memory, or even dishonouring the person they remind us of.

Sometimes we also keep items because of guilt. We might think, “Someone gave this to me, so I should keep it,” or “I spent money on this, so I can’t let it go.” These thoughts are very common and very human.

Understanding Why You're Holding On

If you're struggling to let go, try asking yourself:

• What does this item represent to me?

• Is it the object itself, or the memory it holds, that matters most?

• Do I need to keep this item to remember the person or experience?

Often, just thinking about the “why” behind the attachment can help you get some clarity.

Tips for Letting Go (Gently)

Letting go doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Here are some gentle steps you can take:

• Start small: Begin with items that feel a little easier. Build confidence before tackling more emotional pieces.

• Take photos: A photo can preserve the memory without keeping the physical item.

• Keep a few key pieces: Instead of keeping everything, choose a few special items and let the rest go.

• Create a memory box: Limit the space for sentimental items by using a dedicated container. It helps create healthy boundaries.

• Share the story: Talk about the item or write down the memory it represents. Sometimes, that’s enough to help you move forward.

  
  

Be Kind to Yourself

Letting go of sentimental items is a process. It’s okay to take your time. It’s okay to feel sad, stuck, or even relieved. There’s no “right” way to do it — only what feels manageable and respectful to you.

If you’re finding it really hard, you’re not alone. Many people struggle with this, and it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. It just means you're human.

Final Thought

Letting go of sentimental items doesn't mean letting go of love, memories, or your past. It means making space for the life you’re living now — while still honouring the journey that brought you here.